Attitude is everything. I am not talking about presence. This attitude is what affects how you feel and what you do. Your behavior and outlook. Having a bad attitude is only going to make things seem, well, bad. Ditto for a positive attitude. It is all about frame of mind and like I said, attitude. A negative harmful one will not get you far. Not at all. It will get you negative results, a negative outlook and a negative response. No one is going to respond positively to a puss face and a sour mouth. I know this from being on both sides of the attitude train. I’ve seen it coming and going.
If you determine something is going to be awful, boring or just plain suck. It will. Your negative attitude has pre-disposed the event to suck. Doubly suck because you will spend the time thinking about how much it sucks. Good god it is like a big ugly vacuum, just sucking, sucking, sucking. And you know what? So do you. Why not try to think positively. Why not attempt to enjoy. Sure it may suck. But you never know it – because you already decided it did. My parents made me taste a food I decided I didn’t like. This decision was based on child like rationale such as smell and appearance. Of course, I had no real knowledge of whether the food was good. So they required I take a “no thank you portion”. Sampling it, to see if I liked. Otherwise, I was allowed to move on and from then say, “No thank you, I know that I don’t like it.” Try that on for size. See if you like it. If not, then say, “yeah, this does suck”. Without trying it, without giving it a fair chance, you can never know. Your pre-determination becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. My debate coach in high school would write PMA on our hands, when we came in with a negative attitude and a can't win determination. Positive Mental Attitude. Say, write, live it. And we did, just being that would make the difference in our appearance and confidence.
It makes no sense really. There are always times that things are waited for in anticipation. We look so forward to that event or occasion that it can never live up to expectations and inevitably something going wrong. Prom. No one ever enjoys that night. Too much hype. A good thing gone bad. Let’s flip it around. A bad thing gone good. Maybe, just maybe, this will not suck. Maybe it will be fun. You may even enjoy yourself. I bold statement, but possible. Even if just for a small time, it can be pleasant. But only if you allow it. If you make it that way. If you adjust your attitude and allow the fun in. You gotta have that attitude. Otherwise it really won’t be fun. You will never get to that place where the bad can become good. Or where a small sample means you actually enjoy the taste. It takes a certain level and a certain attitude. After all, attitude is everything.
Amen! I'm gonna have to look back on this post once in a while :)
I really loved this post. There is so much truth in it.
My mom always told me "positive thoughts lead to positive results."
Thanks - it was spurred on by a few recent moments and conversations. I am super guilty of this behavior.
e.b., you are 100% right. Sometimes it is easier to be a defeatist, but it is amazing what you can do if you just try!
Okay, that was SO on target. Just curious as to what prompted the post...(cough)...?
Negative thoughts are always such a waste, though I'm totally guilty of giving them underserved attention (sigh).
Thanks for the reminder!
Oh yes, that is so true! A junior high teacher of mine had a sign in his classroom that said "Life is 10% what happens and 90% attitude." Wasn't until many years later that I actually got that.
PJ: it was a two parter. I had a situation recently that sort of inspired me to spew those thoughts. Followed be a certain incident at a blockbuster this past weekend where I was not quite on my best behavior.